Why should a partner object if you j/o?
If they only feel like participating about one day per week or so, and the guy does that, why should they object?

Its elementary and simple.
We need relief at LEAST 20 days per month, and that leaves us getting relief our own at least 15 or more days per month. If they want to join in more often, fine. But if not...

It's not that simple.you're obviously not married.

Wrong

married long term here, 30+ years, got married young. Of course my wife knows I j/o, always has. We give each other our space, and we are always there for each other too. Sure as we've gotten older her sex drive hasn't kept up with mine, pretty common thing I guess. Even when we were much younger it was never a big deal... it's not as if I walk around stroking all day all over the place and I'm some kind of mental defective, but it is also an accepted "need" and it's no problem. Sort of like a hobby LOL. Being married is pretty much about accepting your mate's weirdness as well as their everything-else-ness.

I mostly agree with you. But there are many reasons. Some of them may not be reasons but rather excuses.

^Maybe there's a concern that one of the children might walk in. Accidents happen, you know.
^Maybe it makes the partner feel inadequate.
^Maybe the partner thinks the masturbator could be doing something more productive like mowing the lawn, canning some peas, putting a load of clothes in the wash, or cooking lunch.
^Maybe the partner thinks there's something s/he wanted done that's been delayed by the masturbator masturbating.
^Maybe the partner (and this would more likely be the female) objects to pornography that the masturbator is using.

There are a lot of reasons and excuses.


I'm mostly in agreement. You'd think a couple could talk through it and reach agreement. But you human beings are odd creatures sometimes.

Was married for 20 years. Wife wanted sex everyday. Even when menstrating. She thought me jerking off to porn would shortchange her. It didn't.

I dont object to him j/o
We masturbate all over the place in our house.

You sound like a wonderful couple.

We are.

Absolutely spot-on. Been married nearly 50 years, she knows I have needs and fully understands. She buys my tissues, knows I buy lube and she's fully aware I love a good wank. Don't do it in front of her (we both did when we had an active sex life) but I just pick a time when she's busy and slope off to the bedroom or somewhere.

We don't 'slope off' to do it, we just do it there and then.

I've never shared with a gal friend that I'm really better at bating than fucking. Always wished I could... Is interesting to see how others here are able to share it with their partners. Seems so magical... to give a partner a wink or a nod that they're going to or wanting to masturbate. And partners could either watch, help or whatever, including mutual masturbation. But totally understanding our sexual needs.

Married 50 years myself, she knows I do, but still gets pissed! She feels that she doesn't need sex anymore so why should I!

Like most married men I still get myself off quite often. We don't talk about it. I began doing it bed next to her while she's sleeping. One night last week she must have woken up and noticed. She didn't say anything at that point but the next morning when she woke up she was not in a great mood. And before you think she's just upset about not being included.... we've had sex twice in the past three years. She has absolutely no interest.

That's why it's only men on this site.