I have now spent so much time jackin to porn that I can't hold an errection when I do have the chance of sex. My wife and I have been sexless for years so I jack off daily, sometimes after long edging sessions. I have now found a fuck buddy except I can't keep it up for her. Its ok if she blows me but as soon as my cock is in a real pussy it wants my hand and porn. Only porn get me hard, only my hand can get me off. Anyone else experience something similar?

At what age are you and at what age is your wife and your fuckbuddy? As we age, we tend toward desiccation. Perhaps your wife and fuckbuddy aren't wet enough. Something you might try is a protracted session of pussy eating; ensure that her hips are canted slightly upwards so that the wetness doesn't just run back out.

Or perhaps try another lube. I've used Albolene for pussy fucking; while it's not slicky wet a la Astroglide, it lasts a looooooong time. I've had one partner use Albolene and she loved it, instant fan. Another partner read the label and said, "There's no way I'm putting that in my pussy."

Another possibility is mineral oil. (If you're a Brit, I think you-all call this "paraffin" something or other.) Bear in mind, though, that petroleum products will wreck your latex sex toys.

Another thing that comes to mind is perhaps it would help if you could arrange to have porn playing while you're having sex. I hope any of these helps.

You are not alone! I suffer from the exact same thing and have for the last 10 plus years. After years of masturbating to porn for hours everyday I too find it impossible to maintain an erection for actual penetration. I must use ED drugs and cock rings to even keep and erection for masturbation. Like you, I can stay hard for a HJ/BJ but go limp upon penetration.

I have heard 2 terms for this; Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction (PIED) and Masturbation Induced Erectile Dysfunction (MIED). Basically after years of masturbating to porn your mind and body become trained to only respond to porn and masturbation. It is not necessarily a bad thing as I have enjoyed many years of masturbatory bliss while consuming mountains of porn. I still enjoy female companionship and "fooling around" but penetration is out of the question. There are still many, many other ways to please a partner!

I had a pron buddy that JO so much it took him for ever to ejaculate. Made it hard for him to cum in a video he would be in . Many times he had to fake it and use artificial cum to finish the video . Change the lighting and it looks fine lol

This is the truth.

https://youtu.be/xAWUvRrJHII

4:38 starts an explanation of Eastern thought on the matter.

If you fast, leave it alone, it will reset.

I feel that we get programmed. Your hard-on mechanism is getting a lot of "yes, good boy" from hand and porn and a lot of "bad boy, bad boy" when pussy enters the picture.

You might be saying "yeah, but this is a different pussy than my wife's". The hard-on mechanism doesn't know the difference.

I know the feeling same with me

this has been slowly happening to me. i either premature ejaculate or have to think super kinky thoughts to finish when fucking my wife to cum. i jerk so often that my dick will for sure stop working more than just every so often and its hard to break cuz jjerking to porn is my favourite activity.

honestly i prefer long edging to female bodies more than sex though, or mutual jerk with buds

Dude, this happened to me about two months ago. I'm an edger an exhibitionist and a daily jacker. I went on vacation and while I planned to jack my vacation away in happiness I stumbled on a woman who easily gave up her pussy. I could not get it up for her exposed and ready pussy so I ate and fingered her into oblivion, which meant that she left with a big smile on her face. I then went to an adult theater with big screen porn running 24/7. I was rock hard in an instant and edged my hard cock for hours there. You know what cured it, simple I abstained from touching my cock or looking at porn for two weeks. By the time I ended my self imposed masturbation gulag I was so horny I couldn't sleep through the night with out being woken up by a hard on. I got together with another woman, truly nothing special but she was happily willing and I fucked her like an escaped convict who hadn't seen a woman in decades. If I was going to roll with her on a daily basis I would leave my cock alone and just fuck here whenever I wanted. That said since I'm not, I'm sitting here slow stroking my lubed hard on, very very happy while watching porn. Enjoy

I had the same problem a few years ago, it made sex very difficult and became the first thing I thought of when we started making out, but its fixed now. I can only tell you what worked for me.

Firstly I started to wank less and looked at less porn. I enjoy doing it over women I know anyway. I would type out my own erotic stories as my thoughts where just as good as porn and I would end up rock hard. I started masturbating over pictures of my wife much more, It helps that we have been together since school so I have loads of photos in bikinis, undies and naked to choose from. but the thought of getting hard because I was fantasising over her, seemed to help.

But the final piece of the puzzle happened when I woke up at 4am with morning wood and cuddle up with her, we had the best fuck we had for a long time and we found out time. We both love being woken up by the other and doing it and fucking in a dreamy state with a clear head. With the kids all still asleep it means we can explore our old kinks more without getting disturbed and best of all, I can still have a wank the evening before and give her a good fucking the next morning.

We still have sex sometimes in the evening and its not a problem anymore, we sometimes have sex before work on a schoolday too

I suffer from the same, well from my very first sexual encounter with a girl -- I was a softy. And I had clue what was going on 'downthere' especially since I would get fully erect for my bate sessions. Every bate. But for sex, my cock took a vacation. And gals just didn't seem to know what to do with a softy. While I did my best to pleasure them with fingers or oral. Then again I/we never chatted much about sex either. I was never bold/brave enough to share with them my ED and how much I enjoyed masturbating.

I only had a couple of gals who knew what to do with a soft cock. One sucked me off which was an unbelievable orgasm. And another slipped my softy between her pussy lips and rode me to an orgasm. OMG was such a wonderful way to cum.

I can get hard for pussy, but I'd rather masturbate than fuck pussy.

I've started worrying about this. Can be hard as a rock for hours when wanking over porn but find myself struggling to get a semi when the opportunity arises. I have a real thing for public wanking and cottaging videos but when in the toilets myself am embarrassed when I don't respond despite my heart beating like a drum. Fortunately a lot of blokes seem to like to show off regardless but I come away feeling sheepish - though with more memories in the wank bank.

I found that getting a fleshlight helped me with my erections to a degree but I don't masterbate to porn just use it to wet my appetite.