I was part of Yahoo too in the old days before the parent groups went after Yahoo's marketplace for selling adult products. Then just decided to get rid of all of it's adult content, Yahoo clubs, and the chat rooms. Jackinchat has definitely changed over the years but has given men the freedom to talk openly, to have conversations about topics that are not really part of polite conversation in person. You see that there is a cross section of guys who are more alike than they are different in their mindsets about sexuality.

Actually I am kind of the same way as you. Don't really have any close guy friends in person so always gravitated to coming on here to look for it. Had some success in the past. Other times turned out bad. I've always subscribed to the mindset of having the best of both. A good platonic friend you can talk about your life and your interests with while be able to do the other stuff with. Stroke together, roleplay bromantic chats. I like the focus just to be on me and the other person and not porn or trying to mic or webcam. I would say I am kind of straight curious but not enough to want to act on anything sexually with another guy in person.

I've talked to a bunch of guys over the years who said they are straight but then always preface but jo with guys. I think it has a lot to with the homo eroticism that comes with having any kind of close intimate contact with another man even if you were just naked and were stroking yourselves to a porn. There is a lot of guys who talk about trying to jo with a guy in person but more than likely don't follow thru with it in person because of everyone's fight or flight response. Everyone wants to be secure in their masculinity and straightness. You see it with women, Sex and the City is kind of an example, that you can have close friendships but you don't see it as much with men because we are all supposed to be stoic and not be so emotionally based. It really depends on where you fit on the much larger sexual spectrum and what your comfort level is. It's unfortunate that not enough guys not necessarily speaking of sexual closeness but social closeness with close personal friends where you can talk about anything and it's OK but also there it is sometimes easy to blur the lines between a close friendship between two guys or seeing as something more where it gets more emotional and you do develop strong intimacy, but that is where it becomes a huge gray area of not wanting to define it and putting no labels and call it whatever you want because it's just between you and the other person. I think I have a better understanding now from hearing other people's stories and their same sex experiences that everyone's lives are different being exposed to different things. You have to walk a mile in another person's shoes to understand. Always circles back to communication.

Anyone else who doesn't get turned on from being in the chat room? I have talked in the chat room for over 20 years and don't I have ever been physically turned on. I would say I am questioning but straight. Unsure if I would do anything in person with a guy. I know it's just my lack of friends. Always question whether it's about social closeness or looking for something more.

I think after reading some of the other posts on the thread has given me some insight. I've talked on here for the past 20 years and there were times, not in person or on webcam, where after having jacked and RP/cybered with a guy and afterwards asked myself the same question "Why did I go thru all of that?" or I'd spend easily 2 or 3 hours to find one person to talk to and get zero. A lot of abbreviated chats where guys ghost me or the room is too slow not worth trying to carry on a conversation and think why did I waste that much time.

Years ago I knew I didn't want a webcam for the reason that it is something private and it's not something you really show to people who are complete strangers. Wasn't until 2015 when I got a Amazon Fire Kindle for Christmas and one of the apps for downloading was Skype. I had some time to myself and tested it seeing how I looked on the camera which gave me the idea to try webcamming with people but either there were connection issues or finding out from the few people I did webcam with they only stayed for less than a few minutes. Just long enough for them to sign on, cum and leave.

I could understand guys who have to work or have college and need to get on with their day but if I would put myself out there I would want it to be substantial instead it appears to be men who are looking for a quick fix or instant gratification with the vicarious thrill of stroking with another man without actually being in person. Once it's over you leave and forget about it like it never happened. I don't know. That feels like the attitude. Because of what society has ingrained into everyone that any sexual activity between men isn't straight or be comfortable and screw labels. One guy I talk to recently said don't overthink it, relax and enjoy it, and if not don't do it.

What I had realized over the years from having coming here a lot is my need for male friends which I have lacked which became a whole other thing. My best friend recently bought me a webcam so we could talk and now it's I am curious to try it out with others. Maybe explore my sexuality? But still end of the day just about wanting friends and social closeness with other guys. I've always been introverted and never left my comfort zone.

I would want to make a friendship and build trust then could consider more which by that time you have already gotten to know the person and you are both comfortable with each other.

I was just on and got disconnected and reconnected me saying ok you are connected again and had to go back and out and come back in except it gave me the same message that I had to register a screen name when I already have. I went thru javascript and my screen name got locked down by Services Enforcer and followed the instructions to release it and got this.

[12:46] == Str8MaleBromo The nick Str8MaleBromo is currently being held by a Services Enforcer. If you are the nicks owner, use /msg [email protected] RELEASE Str8MaleBromo password to release the nickname. If the nickname recently expired, please wait patiently and try again later.

[12:46] *[email protected]* RELEASE Str8MaleBromo bromos

[12:46] == PRIVMSG You must finish connecting with another nickname first.

I tried using a different name and wouldn't let me back on and went back to the same message about registering another screen name.

Here is the link for anyone interested. http://g0ys.org/

The O is spelled with a zero.

Think you just need to put yourself out there more socially. Have friends help you out of your shell. I am shy and introverted to a point too. I am still a virgin and I am going to be 44. I think it will come when the time is right. Don't resort to having to settle for something less. Eventually you will meet someone who likes you and can go from there.

Goys.org but the o is a zero.

I don't have a regular webcam and microphone hooked up to my PC so I tried using the Skype app on my Amazon Kindle Fire 7. However, with the few people I have cammed or miced they were more interested in answering and stayed online for a few minutes or less or there were problems with the internet connection. If I were to try I would it to be with another regular straight guy where the emphasis wasn't on watching porn and wanting to get off as quickly as possible. I would prefer it be with someone where I could have a nice, pleasant and relaxing chat where we could also have some bro bonding type RP/cyber. Are people into that still or has it become too antiquated?

I understand their reasoning. If someone replied to an ad and met the person and became the victim of a sexual crime they could go after Craigs List if I read the legal jargon correctly. They would lose all of their other resources for people who are looking for jobs or those looking to buy and sell stuff.

I wanted to ask more about Discord. I had a conversation with someone from the room who told me more about it. He talked about how the #clubgoon chat room had been moved, but it does also exist on the IRC network. I was wondering if it be possible to have the same thing for the main Jackinchat chat room. I've heard there is a bunch of people who disagree with it. I've talked on here for a long time and had so many dropped chats over the years(could be they just cummed and left, don't know) or the room is incredibly slow. Takes 5 minutes for someone to say three words or at times the person gets bump off but still shows the person as signed in and takes the server upwards of several minutes to reflect the person has been bumped off ie: ping timeout. I am not saying to eliminate the room and move everything on here because a lot of people or regulars frequent the IRC room whether it's thru the Jackinchat website where I normally log in or from some other source. Give people an alternative option so they can have a better chat experience. The only other part that crosses my mind is moderation though. Would be a task to monitor both rooms just so you aren't having people flaming the room or posting links or illegal stuff. Food for thought.

Didn't think I'd get as many responses to my original post, but it does offer different points of view and opinions. If anyone remembers general psychology fight or flight response I've seen it that way. You go with your gut when something doesn't feel right to you or try something and be surprised you actually like or don't but at least you can say you tried and found out it wasn't all it was cracked up to be.

Thought I'd try to renew this thread. Basically based on what I posted up above. Don't have a real problem with the other guy being into porn just as long as you aren't involved with it during our chatting. I am just not into it really or sharing or jacking to stuff together. Looking for real guy friends. We can Skype and chat on there if we click. Also have Yahoo Messenger. Fire me off a message in my inbox. Anyone 40 or younger, straight or straight curious is fine with me. Like to try and meet new people and make more friends because the chat room is too difficult to talk in sometimes.